84. Do you refuse to grow up?

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As we age we tend to mature. We no longer dress, act or live the way we did when we were children or in our teens.

We become more responsible and consider our long term goals. We learn from experience and (hopefully) make better choices.

Our tastes also tend to mature. We trade Happy Meals for fine restaurants, a good steak or salad, maybe a glass of fine wine.

We can’t eat pizza or nachos every night and not feel awful or experience health consequences that we don’t want to deal with. We recognize this and adjust accordingly.

And yet…. So many of us, myself included back in the day, refuse to date like the mature women we have become.

We go online and complain that the men all look like our fathers or grandfathers, but we don’t look 21 anymore either.

We insist on sparks flying immediately when we know full well how badly it went with the last 17 men who gave us butterflies.

We call this “not settling”, but what it really is is a refusal to be realistic and grow the heck up.

When it comes to dating, we often have the same expectations we had at 18, even though nothing else is like it was when we were 18.

If you’re looking for a life partner and not to live out the script of a typical romance novel you simply must stop acting like this.

What’s a girl to do?

Grow up, like you already have in every other area of your life.

Realistically assess the romantic opportunities that are available to you, just like you would with jobs, housing, the clothing that you can fit into/afford.

Learn to appreciate these things instead of moaning about how you think it “should” be.

If it should be that way, it would be.

Once you do this, you stand a much better chance of being happy with your options and actually finding someone to share your life with.

A real grownup who treats you well, instead of another flash in the pan “situtationship” that leaves you jaded and heartbroken.

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