77. The true cost of dating drama

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I used to think that dating was something you didn’t ask for help with.

I felt ashamed and didn’t want to admit the extent of my struggles.

Instead, I hoped that people would just assume that I was happy and didn’t need a man.

But as the years went by, I cared less about what others thought.

I ached to find a man to share my life with and nothing I did was working.

I didn’t know how to make it happen and I didn’t want to believe that it wasn’t possible for me.

I finally realized that it wasn’t just going to happen one of these days, so I decided to hire a coach.

It was expensive, but when I look back, not asking for help was so much more costly.

I was single for 20 years.

I spent at least 10 hours a week:

Dating, thinking about dating, complaining about dating, reading self-help books about dating, googling dating tips, writing and re-writing my profile, texting, messaging, talking to guys or thinking about how to do those things, wracking my brain trying to figure out what was wrong with me, obsessing over guys who were pulling away, had broken up with me, or hadn’t called me, recovering from breakups and feeling terrible about the whole thing.

10 hours a week is actually a low estimate and over 20 years it adds up to 10,400 hours!

Now, consider just the financial cost of that. If you earn about $50 an hour, like I did back then, that’s $520,000.

Did it really make sense to try to do it on my own to save money?

I don’t think so.

I would have been so much more productive if I’d spent those hours happily coupled and working on something else, like building my business, getting an MBA or even just relaxing with my husband.

Time is a nonrenewable resource.

I’ll never get those hours back, but I learned so much and I’m so happy that I eventually got support and found my wonderful husband.

I wish I’d known how much easier and less painful dating could be.

And it was extremely painful.

All the breakups, drama, thinking that dating was horrible and the world was a cold lonely place full of awful men who only wanted to use me.

Those years were hard and lonely years for me.

You can’t put a dollar amount on pain and suffering, but if I were offered a chance to avoid all of that by shelling out a few bucks, I’d be thrilled to do it.

What about you?

How much is waiting to figure this out on your own costing you in money, time and the emotional toll it takes to date without success?

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