103. #2 4 reasons you haven't found your guy YET

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You need to get real about what dating looks like after 40 so that you can have a fighting chance at getting into a real relationship with a good guy.

This isn’t an easy thing to do after 40, but we tend to make it even harder by not facing the reality of what dating and relationships look like at this life stage.

When you expect it to look like it did in your 20’s (even though nothing else does!) you are in for a rough ride.

If you want to find a good man out there, you’ll benefit massively from aligning your priorities with what you really want.

So instead of prioritizing a man’s height, looks, swagger, excitement level, think about the kind of relationship you really want, how you want to feel with this man.

Then, consider the qualities a man would need to possess to be able to participate in this kind of relationship and prioritize those qualities instead.

A good shortcut for this is to think about your best friends. What qualities do they possess? What do you like about them?

You’re much more likely to have a good relationship with a man who has these qualities instead of the more flashy, exciting ones.

Excitement is one of the most overrated qualities when it comes to dating.

I want you to date boring and make the rest of your life exciting.

Date predictable men whose words and actions match, men you can count on.

Date the nice guy with the dad bod who worships you instead of the gym rat who’s trying to seduce all the women in his yoga class.

Date the man with a kid and a regular job instead of the exciting executive who never has time for you.

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