55. How important is it to have chemistry in early dating

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Chemistry is so overrated.

It’s a necessary part of a romantic relationship, but letting it drive your entire dating life is like letting a 3 year old get behind the wheel of your car and take you to the store.

It’s a terrible idea and you’re not likely to get where you want to go.

I’d like to suggest that you prioritize other qualities and let the chemistry grow over time.

There needs to be some, but it doesn’t need to be overpowering.

I think it’s a gift that chemistry doesn’t necessarily set in immediately for a woman when she starts seeing a guy. 

When this is the case, the relationship can develop with a more healthy dynamic and the woman is more empowered.

This is her chance to evaluate him in the cold light of day before she starts letting her feelings carry her along. This is an opportunity to see if he has the qualities she prioritizes. 

A man also tries harder when he doesn’t get the sense that he has you in the bag.

Most women waste this opportunity by dumping the guy and moving onto someone that she has instant chemistry with where she proceeds to repeat all the mistakes she’s been making in her dating life all along. 

Chemistry can blind us to a man’s faults.

Take the opportunity to date men that you don’t have instant off the charts chemistry with. 

It will feel weird and not as much fun at first, but you will get used to it.

The way you’ve been doing it has not been working, so at least try to do it this way.

Attraction can grow over time and you will have the opportunity to see what kind of man he is without being blinded by chemistry.

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