45. Men are "as is" merchandise

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Is there a guy you’re interested in who’s perfect for you and you just know you’d be great together?

You may be crushing on him from afar or you may have even gone out with him a few times. Maybe he’s even your boyfriend.

BUT, there are some things you wish were different.

• He won’t commit to you

• He puts his job, kids, ex, pet lobster before you

• He never has time for you

• He smokes, parties, gambles, cheats, goes to strip clubs, whatever

You think that maybe if you just hang in there long enough, he’ll come around

You really like him, maybe even love him and you definitely don’t want to have to go out there and start all over again.

I totally get it.

I’ve been there more times than I can count.

And here’s the deal (tough love alert)

He does what he does, because of the kind of man he is. It has nothing to do with you.

A man will pretty much treat you the way he treats other people, especially his former loves.

Do not get seduced into the idea that a man is going to change for you.

Or that he doesn’t know what he wants, know what is good for him or will change his mind.

Actually, this is borderline insulting.

He is a grown man and he knows what he is doing, just as you do.

To think your wishes and desires are more important than his is disrespectful.

Instead, I want you to take a deep breath and realize that men are like cats. They do what they darn well please and you can choose how you will respond but you will not change them.

If you try, he will be annoyed with you and he will still continue to do what he wants.

So, the best thing to do is to find a man who wants what you want.

A man who wants what you want NOW, at this time in his life, with you.

Because you’re not going to change a fixer-upper, no matter how much you love him.

Let him make his own choices and if he isn’t choosing you, find a man who will.

I promise you, it’s so much more fun than staying in a no-win situation with a man who’s ultimately not interested in you enough to go the distance with you.

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